Sleeping or cuddling with your partner may seem so cute, until their sleeping behaviors begin to bother you. Their tossing and turning, or constant up and down of the night can be a true disruption to you getting good sleep. Couples prefer sleeping together, but actually get better sleep when sleeping alone. So what's the solution? 

Well, aside from a sleep divorce, or toughing it out (which may lead to a real divorce) there may be another option. Scandinavian sleep. method is a method of sleeping where you and your partner still share the same bed, but each have your own comforter or duvet. Continue reading to find out what effect this may have for you and your bed partner. 

Sleeping with a bed partner 

Sleeping with a bed partner can increase intimacy, and the presence of another warm body can provide comfort for some sleeperers. Sleeping together can also provide a sense of connection, as you and your partner can begin and end the day together. Practicing positive sleep behaviors and good sleep routines together can also create a bond before you both enter sleep together. 

There are many ways that sleeping together can strengthen the bond of a couple, however, sleeping together can also create some strain. Sleeping with another person creates the potential for disruption. If one person is a wild sleeper, this can create too much movement for the other person. Snoring can be a huge disruption, with one partner struggling to get good rest because of how loudly their partner is sleeping. 

Another thing that can be a problem are different preferences. Mattress firmness, room temperature, room sounds, all environmental components that make up one's ability to go to sleep can create strife and strain for the other if they are too different. 

How sleep deprivation affects the relationship 

Sleep deprivation is a serious trigger for relationship issues. One of the main reasons is that sleep deprivation can cause moodiness, a short attention span and memory, and an overall inability to deal with much more than the bare minimum. 

When you are in a relationship with someone who wants your attention, expects you to remember certain things, or needs emotional availability, it can be hard to provide all of those things when your sleep is suboptimal. This means that you may find yourself arguing more, having less patience, and feeling less connected to your partner. 

Another aspect of your life that sleep deprivation can affect is your level of intimacy. Sleep deprivation kills sexual drive, making it hard to begin and maintain an erection, and reducing the ability to be aroused for both sexes. This, too, can severely affect a relationship, demonstrating that sleep deprivation may actually be the root cause for many sleep issues. 

How the Scandinavian sleep method can help couples avoid fights 

Sharing a comforter or sheet while sleeping can disrupt sleep up to 30%. The scandinavian sleep method attempts to solve this by using separate comforters or duvets while still staying in the same bed. This can be a useful tip for those who do not want a sleep divorce, or sleep in separate rooms, but still need some sort of solution. 

This provides individuals with their own level of comfort when it comes to the duvet or sheets. Also, the amount of control that one feels when determining how sheets are distributed throughout the night can also provide individuals increased comfort for better sleep. 

Drawbacks to the Scandinavian Sleep Method 

Although this sleeping method may solve some issues that couples face, one major drawback is the lack of skin to skin contact, and inability to "set the mood". Essentially, this sleep. method can be a huge barrier to increasing intimacy throughout the night. 

Couples may have to find a way to circumvent this by establishing a time for skin-to-skin contact prior to, or after sleeping, but then returning to their separate comforters when it's actually time to sleep. 

Another drawback, or factor that this sleep method doesn't address is the fact that separate comforters may not reduce the amount of disruption from movement if the entire mattress still moves with the adjustments of one of the partners. Also, this will not address snoring or sleep talking, or any other potential disruption that doesn't have to do with the actual sheets of the bed. 

Whether or not this method is for you is a choice for you and your partner. However, if you find yourself constantly exhausted, and notice your partner may be exhibiting those signs as well, then it may be time to find a sleep solution. Take this free online sleep test, and get in contact with one of our sleep health professionals as soon as possible to determine what may be the cause of your sleep issues. 

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